Random Thoughts #7 “Misunderstandings and Misconceptions of the Opposite Sex” Part II “Confidence and Women’s Porn”

“How come she flirts with me if she doesn’t like me?”
“Guys only want women for sex”
“Girls are confusing”
“Guys are stupid”

We’ve all heard or even thought these things. The only reason I’m writing about this is because we all (myself included) complain about the opposite sex and how stupid the opposite sex is. Guess what? We’re all stupid especially when it comes to relationships, so let’s try something, instead of complaining let’s try to understand each other and see where the other is coming from and why they feel this way. Before I get into this allow me to say I haven’t been in a relationship before (not by choice I might add) and I don’t understand everything about the opposite or even my own, but I will try to shed as much light as possible on subjects that I struggle and some I believe women struggle with.

CONFIDENCE!!! One of the keys to relationships and in fact life in general, however here lies the problem! Nobody’s confident! Women say “I want a man that is confident”, well it’s kind of hard to want something that you don’t even have (harsh I know but true). It also doesn’t help that men aren’t very confident either. Ladies just because we act cocky sometimes, doesn’t mean were confident, in fact a lot of the times it means the exact opposite. Now why aren’t we confident (and we I mean both men and women). Society plays a big part in this, they tell us the whole “thin is in” bit. They also push the idea of sex as something with barely any consequence (when it has not only has physical consequences but emotional ones…..more on that later).

Ladies, your confidence shouldn’t be determined by how look based upon what magazines or the media in general say. That’s just setting yourself up for low-esteem right off the bat. I can’t tell you how many girls I’ve heard say that they need to lose weight when they look fine. I believe this, you should workout to stay fit and healthy not just to change the way you look. Another thing that doesn’t help is comparing yourself to the people around you, we are all beautiful regardless of what the world says, sometimes we all forget this.

Guys, your confidence shouldn’t be based upon your muscle size or God forbid how many girls you hook up with. Another problem in our society is the fact that some of us are not proud of the people we are now, honestly if you’re a guy that spends more time playing video games than playing sports or something like that you’re looked down upon. Men aren’t supposed to show emotions, if you show those emotions at the wrong time, you will be made fun of for it. There will be more on this later but this is kind of a problem.

Something else that is kind of holding women back from relationships are these doggone Romance Novels and Movies. Ya’ll know exactly what I’m talking about, the “Dear John’s” “Letters from Juliet”. I read in a book called “Dateable” that romance novels and romance movies are to women, like porn is to males (no I don’t watch porn…..I can hear you guys thinking that I do). I’m sorry ladies but most of the guys in society are not going to act like Channing Tatum does in that movie (in fact Channing Tatum probably doesn’t act that romantic in real life).

Alright that’s enough for now, next time I will cover the whole “asking out” thing, until next time!

“instead of complaining how about we attempt to understand each other”

-Peace and God Bless
Michael Stover

~ by Michael Stover on May 18, 2010.

One Response to “Random Thoughts #7 “Misunderstandings and Misconceptions of the Opposite Sex” Part II “Confidence and Women’s Porn””

  1. Well said.

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